The nation.

Pride, Galore, Patriotism, etc. were all the words and feelings, the lady in tears were being told about. These were the feelings that every single person around the tri-colour wrapped martyr was having right then. Life of the martyr seem to be such a big inspiration for every one in the country, the day this happened. Every one was in tears, but at the same time, they all felt their chest puffed up with pride. The Lady, his wife, she was in tears and in almost unconscious state. She somewhere knew the fact that, her husband is martyred fighting for the lovely land of mother India, which he considered as closest to his heart and his supreme duty was only to protect it. But, also she knew that, getting same respect and dedication back from the other, who will handle the proceedings of further formalities, is a distant hope.

The lady, in sorrow of demise, of her loving husband, was uncertain whether to mourn the death, or to be proud of the sacrifice, or start thinking about the time ahead. She, no doubt, was proud of what her husband has achieved, but she also knew that, taking care of time that was to come, will be equally brutal and tough. She is the one, whom the children will look to, whenever they need anything - emotions,care, or literally anything.

Then she saw, a pool of people gathered around and were talking about the courage and dedication of the tri-colour wrapped martyr. This gave her a sense of assurance that things are not gonna be as though as she once thought of. But, alas ! This assurance vanished pretty immediately, as she looked over to the other side where two kids, completely mixed with mud and dust, playing in their own world, and unaware of what has happened. They didn't know, that they have lost someone whom they have called "Papa" for whatever time they have been together. She immediately realised that, these kids are now, the sole responsibility of hers. She has to act as father and the mother both for her entire life.

Few days passed by, she happened to watch TV and hear some news. She came across an announcement, where they said, her family will be awarded with cash, to look after the needs of the family. She somewhere knew that these are nothing but, a publicity stunt for the politicians. Still, she tried approaching the officials for it, only to get a response that the things take time and she will get the cash award, as it comes to them, sooner or later. She was disappointed as she was walking out of the official's cabin, someone told her, give them something and you'll get ur money. Hearing this she said, my husband gave his life to protect the nation, let me do my share by not bribing, no matter i get the award or not. Salute to the lady !! Salute to the soldiers !! Salute to the Nation !! Jai Hind !!

Perception : Good or Bad ??

That person is gonna create so much of trouble, you know. Reason ?? Dude, he is a bihari. You know how they are.

What do you call this ? You call this intuition ? Prediction? Foresight?? Nah. This is a simple and flat case of wrong perception.

Perception, the way in which something is regarded, understood, or interpreted. Why does one have a perception? Is it because, someone is forced to have one ? What happens is that if a certain action is repeated by a certain set of individual or a person, that becomes the identity of that individual or group. These actions may be good or bad, based on which people make a good or bad perception respectively.

But, the bigger aspect to this is that, if one person does one thing, how does it determine that, every other individual related to him or her will do the same ? I do not see any sense in this logic. Do you ? If one person is a nuisance, then may be he or she is the rotten egg in the basket, and not that the entire basket is rotten. Same way, a person being good never determine that everyone related will be good. At least, not always.

What do we do then ? Question is not worth being asked. Because, answer is simple. Do not create perception. Do not bound a person's identity to a certain act or behavior. He/she may have done that out of some reasons, which you might not be aware of. And, may be, that action would have been correct, just that you failed to decipher that properly.

Impact of perception in people's mind is real tragic guys. It makes many suffer a lot. Despite, them being very different from that perception.

Also, to everyone else, who are victim of this perception tragedy, pls be real real careful with what you do, what you speak and how you act, coz somewhere, someone might be creating a perception of it. Be careful.

Be natural, be good and be genuine. Perception never helps. All it does is, it hurts. Either you or the other. Refrain from it.

Tata. Bbye !!

Be Anti-social !!

You know what is the worst part of being social ? People start judging you and giving you a label and also start defining your level. As if this is what they are being paid for or this is something there way to attain mokcha is. They bloody don't even think once that they are no one, i mean literally no one to decide, what we are or what level we have. And this is not something that one person or a certain set of group does. This is done by every single person we ever come across, irrespective of caste, color, religion, region, etc.

What I feel like, when going thru such situation ? This must be the question that must be coming across.

Man ! Cut that crap. You are not eligible enough to judge me, and for that matter, no one is. Not just b'coz you don't know me completely. But also, because, you are no one to do that. You are not authorized to do that, not by someone who is eligible enough to allow you, at least. So, please stop giving me this cerificate created by your imaginations, which are no where linked to the real me. Seriously, cut this crap guys.

What made you to get so involved, that you started issuing me a character certificate and defining what level I hold. Is it an action of mine, which was either provoked by a certain turn out of events or an immediate poke. May be, that is not what I am and was just the response to stimuli. You removing your hand while being pinched suddenly, is not what your nature is. It's just that the situation demands that action from you and you did. May be, you never back off your hand when your loved ones need you to be there for them. So, this sudden or single action can define one. Neither you, nor me.

So let's not judge someone on there certain actions and let's wait for the real person in him to come out, if at all you are so eager to judge a person.

Also, may be, there has been an instance, where I wanted to show you what you are on your face. And you are not at all worthy of anything. This truth while was being told to you on you face, must have made you feel bad, and you must have made a perception, thinking that, I am no good or I am cheap.

You know what ? I don't care. I don't give a damn about what you think. Plain and simple, It's none of my business. You are wrong, you handle it. You gonna tell that to people ? Please, go ahead and do it. Because, those who understands me, won't believe you and those who believe you, are the ones whom I am least bothered about. Short and simple, stop getting bothered about what I am and what is my level, mind your own freaking business. I love what I am and needless to say, will keep loving myself. Your perception never had an impact on that and will never have.

Go get a life guys.

I prefer being Anti-social !! Thank you.

Feelings

Hey Hi !! Here's a new one !!

Feelings.

What are feelings ?? How do they develop ?? What stimulates there growth ?? Why do we even have that ??

Well, to me these are pretty complicated and I just gave it a shot via my own specs of thoughts, in the paras to come. So let's go thru what I feel about these.

Feelings, can be good or can be bad. Can make us happy or can make us go angry. Can make us fall in love or can well may make us come out of an established relationship. So,what defines them !! Ask me, and I would say, these are the observations that our soul (not brain) make every passing second. I said not brain because, brain observes things and translates them into our thought process or may be perception, but never feelings. Though, at times, our perception or thought process help us develop certain types of feelings but not always, so count brain out. So, feelings are special, undoubtedly. These are our very own degree of inclination or declination towards or away from a certain individual.

Now, how do they develop:

Trust me on this, but going by what I have observed till date, there is no certain or fixed way of this. It just happens, may be at times due to a certain action but that's very rare. Feelings develop because of certain things that keep happening over a continuous period of time, either good or bad. They never just get developed due to one incident or action. There are cases where, we never come to know that we have got feelings for a certain individual, unless we actually develop it. Also, we may develop feelings for an individual, whom we never even imagined, we will. So, its pretty complicated.

Why do we even have feelings:

Since, we are all human beings, we are blessed with amazingly confusing organs named soul and heart. These organs lives or survives on certain special food. Well, no points for guessing the right answer though, this food is feeling and emotion. And knowingly or unknowingly, we tend to feed them with their favorite food, in order to keep ourselves alive.

There is a bigger picture to this as well, in the making though. Will share with you, once that work is completed.

Thanks. Sayonara. Ta-Ta.

Expression

What happens when we go thru something in our life ? How do others come to know about what we are going thru ? What makes a happy person differ from one who is sad ? What do we do when we are happy or similarly what shows we are sad ?

Answer to all these questions is in just one word - EXPRESSION, expression of feelings !! We smile, laugh, grin and cheer up when we get happy. On the other hand, we cry, sob or feel down whenever we are sad. Don't we ? Yes, we do.

Now, here is what I want to talk about this very simple and common things of expression. What decides that a smile is always an expression of happiness ? What decides tears rolling down the eyes always denote sadness ? On the contrary, there have always been instances, where tears show extreme happiness.

I have seen ppl in my life who use to have a very different way of expressing there feelings than others, and in fact, they never failed to convey there feelings. Though, not all can decipher the true meaning of every expression. But, one thing is for sure, those who have been thru such things can understand. What happens when we are disappointed immensely but have none next to us to share the load ? Few may cry, others may get angry or may panic. But, trust me on this, I have seen ppl who just stare blank at the sky or to a point zero, without uttering a single word or showing any symbol of stress on there face. Does this mean, that, situation does not have any impact on them ? Certainly not. They are impacted as well, it's just that they don't want others to know, what exactly are they going thru.

Few ppl keep smiling, instead of immense pain or problems that they have in there lives. This may keep the environment around them positive and happy, but at the same time this helps them prevent others from digging into there wounds and hurt them more. Because, they feel, it's better to keep things to oneself rather than to let ppl keep digging the same repeatedly.

So, pls stop stereotyping expressions. A smile doesn't always say, all is well or a tear doesn't always mean one is stressed.

Life is short, let's stay happy and help ppl stay happy in whatever possible way we can !!

Thanks !! Love !! GudBye !!

Difficulties and how to deal with it.

"This blog is entirelyly out of my personal experience and they are completely my own beliefs."

What happens when we face difficult situations in our life ?? Don't we panic ?? We all do. We get sad, we get annoyed, we feel down and much more. These are the human's own way of expressing the pain that one goes thru.

What is the best way to overcome these tricky situation ?? I am calling it as a tricky situation coz I feel so. Why I feel so is because, these situations are not permanent and at the same time can be very painful and may cause an individual to loose his or her cool completely for that span of time. So, now coming back to the ways to overcome. To know the best ways, first we have to understand what are the ways that we all use. Out of all those ways, we will try to find out which are the good ones and leave out the non reasonable ones.

We scream, mostly when we get annoyed or irritated. Don't we ? We all do. But, let's see it from a third person's point of view. Suppose you are passing by and you see a person shouting on somebody and abusing. Does it look or sound correct to you ? Answer is NO. Never. Then, why we do that ? We all do. Or at least most of us, with me also not being an exception. So, this is certainly not the best way to tackle such situation. Screaming - Striked out.

Next, what we do is we get violent. We in many cases cross the line and get violent. We try to use our force because of anger overflowing in our brains. Every great who took birth on this planet have sometime or the other mentioned - Anger is the biggest enemy of an individual. And rightly so. When we let anger get over our consciousness, we actually loose the war against forces trying to not let us behave humanly. So, anger can never be the solution. In fact once we calm down we always end up regretting about what we have done out of anger. So Anger - striked out.

Above were just the two examples where we see how we harm ourselves while trying to teach the other person a lesson.

Let's see a golden approach of handling such situation.

Breathe deeply, think, analyse and then decide. Don't jump on to conclusions. Now, every one will say, these things are easier said than done. Indeed they are. I agree completely. But, as the saying goes, nothing is impossible, if u try for it and try it right. So friends, try and keep yourself calm. Take wiser decisions and save yourself from humiliation and regret later.

And remember, To forgive someone is the biggest punishment you can ever give.

Thanks and Good Bye !!